While speaking with a client the other day she said to me that she finds herself judging harshly the people around her, whether it's at work or at home. She didn't like this tendency, but it has been a big part of her mindset for decades. I proceeded to ask her how judging others makes her feel. She thought for a while and replied, quite shocked with her discovery, "Isolated."
She remained quiet, surprised and quite emotional, finding one of the root causes of the loneliness she experienced in her life. This was an enlightening moment for her. Could it be that the cause of one of her problems was right within her? That she was creating it? And yet this is more common then we may think. I hear this often from my clients and have to admit that I've been there myself.
We experience freedom when we deepen our perspectives into a compassionate outlook on life and towards ourselves and
others. We all have a story to tell don't we? And in a way we are all growing and doing our best. Life is not always easy. But using those insights to grow is deeply satisfying.
The client and I went on to talk about the place of judgments in our lives. To judge or not to judge? In truth, there are two basic kinds of judgements – the good and the bad kind. For sure, there is room for discernment in our life, for the good type of judgement if you may. But often it seems that the harsh type of judgement predominates. She continued saying, "It doesn't matter what situation I am in, I can always find something to complain about. The problems always appear to be outside, nagging at me. It makes my life miserable and it feels like you can't win with that tendency to constantly judge, as I also turn this tendency towards myself."
Sometimes that judgmental state feels like a toxic judge. Any feelings of love or relaxation or peace that you might have been nurturing disappear. Whether you're judging others or yourself, it's impossible to aim negative judgments in any direction without experiencing the sharp edges of judgment within yourself.
And so after this good honest look at her mind my client asked how to undo this tendency – how to change this nagging and harsh radio station within her own mind. This is where hypnosis comes into play. The techniques are adapted to your needs and objectives. It could be kindness, openness, compassion or simply to have a lighter and happy outlook on life. Often it is about letting go of the past. Once we have defined the objectives, so intimate to oneself, then we can empower them. The easiest part of the session ensues. The techniques used in hypnosis vary from deepening our state into a profound and rejuvenating state of relaxation where our deep wisdom within is empowered, to using metaphors, regressions or progression techniques.
I have seen lives changed after just a few sessions. Why not give hypnosis a try? You will be pleasantly surprised. For hypnosis to work it simply requires an open mind. I simply help my clients to connect with their inner strengths and wisdom. From there anything can happen, in ways that are truly remarkable.
Lynne Cardinal
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